Thursday, January 13, 2011

What will people think...?

Oh dear, oh dear, What will people think of me?

I went back to bed after Mr. O went to work. Had a very long leisurely shower...nearly used the whole 40 gallons of hot water!
Yakked on the phone and then dressed and went to town for the day. The only housework I did was a few dishes and made our bed.
My only excuse is; I did it because I could.

The house is so quiet. After Mr. O leaves for work it is just me here and it hasn't been that way in quite some time. I almost feel guilty for enjoying it. We made the decision after much mental struggling to place Mrs O in hospital. It was getting very difficult to continue to care for her here at home and all she really wanted was to be in bed all day. It was a struggle to keep her up long enough for meals. Of course with that decision came all the guilt...could I have done more? ...could I have done a better job? I should have been more patient...

Why do we do that to ourselves?


5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wendy, you are the most generous, caring, heartfilled person I know. Forget the guilt. You did everything you could....and still do! Not one of your friends would think differently. Let it go......enjoy some quiet time. You've earned it. I'm sure you'll be visiting the other Mr's O at the hospital all the time!!! Do I have to text you to tell you.....I love you??? LOL
Glenda xoxo

Linda H said...

Wendy, give yourself a little shake! DO NOT do the Guilt thing. You have gone way beyond in the care of Mrs. O. and have not one tiny thing to feel guilty about. You have given her loving care for as long or longer than possible and now she is where she needs to be. Enjoy the quiet time and re-energize. Indeed you have earned it. No doubts you'll be wearing a pair of wings one day...

HollyM said...

I agree with the above! I'm glad you gave yourself a break.

bArb said...

WHAT WILL PEOPLE THINK......
well I will tell you what I think! Some me time that is well deserved, enjoy!!!! I am very sorry to hear that Rose is not well, but you dear Sister have done all that you could possibly do

Hugs to you! and lots of love!

Jackie said...

Wendy, althought I don't know you for a long time, It isn't very hard to see what kind of person you are. Taking care of an elderly person, I always said you need someone who is very very special to do so...Don't feel guilty for all of what you have done for your mother in law. I am sure she very much appreciated it and so did your husband, but when someone is this sick, they do need "hospital care". It is very hard ,(I Understand believe me) to have to take such a decision, but in thelong run, it is what is Best for Everyone. Don't run the guilt trip on yourself, not it's time to relax, get some energy and get ready for Retreat.

You are a Very Special Person!
Jackie xxx

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